You're tired of living the same struggle on repeat.
Whether it's your marriage, your thoughts, your habits, your relationships, or your sense of direction, you already know when something in life isn't the way it should be. STS coaching helps you face what's really happening, understand what's driving it, and take real biblical steps toward change.
11,555+ coaching appointments. 22+ coaches. One methodology.
It shows up everywhere. Not just the obvious places.
The gap between who you are and who God made you to be isn't always dramatic. Most of the time it's quiet, persistent, and just out of reach.
"We're fine. We just feel like we're going through the motions."
Distance that grew slowly. Now it feels like the default.
"I'm productive. But there's nothing life-giving about it."
The labor of your hands should mean something.
"I want deeper connection. I keep having the same conversations."
The depth you want keeps slipping through how you communicate.
"I said I'd stop doing that. And then I did it again."
The pattern runs no matter how many times you decide.
"I know who God made me to be. I can't figure out how to get there."
The gap isn't closing on its own.
"I know what Scripture says. I still can't stop spiraling."
Knowing isn't the same as walking in it.
This is not passive coaching.
Your coach is not here to nod, affirm, and send you away with more things to reflect on. They're here to help you tell the truth, see clearly, and learn how to move differently. The goal isn't endless processing. The goal is real change — walked out in your actual life.
Truly meet you
Your coach creates the conditions for honest work — not performance, not the polished version of you. You stop explaining yourself and start being real. Nothing in the remaining stages moves without this foundation.
"I've told this story a hundred times. But my coach asked a question nobody had ever asked. I heard myself say something I'd never said out loud before."
Name what's underneath
The belief driving the behavior. The wound under the conflict. The thought pattern producing the same result. The TEA framework — Thought → Emotion → Action — surfaces what's actually running underneath and anchors it in what Scripture says instead.
"I'd framed it as a communication problem for years. My coach helped me see it was a belief I'd been carrying since childhood. That changed everything."
Build the new skill
Insight alone doesn't change behavior. Practiced skill does. Your coach teaches the new response, walks you through it in real scenarios, corrects it when you drift, and repeats it until it belongs to you — not just as information, but as a new default.
"We practiced the same response four times. I felt ridiculous. The fifth time the situation was real — and I actually did it differently."
Walk differently
You're not just aware of what needed to change — you're different. The habit that used to run automatically has been replaced by one that actually shows up in your marriage, your work, your relationships, how you move through every day. And when you drift, your coach knows you well enough to call you back.
"Six months later I was in the exact situation I used to dread. And I wasn't the same person who used to dread it. I knew what to do. And I did it."
35+ focus areas across every part of life.
Every coaching relationship is tailored to where you actually are — not a generic program.
Who you are at the root
- Grief, Loss & Church Hurt
- Identity & Inner Healing
- Spiritual Formation
- Thought Patterns & Beliefs
- Emotional Maturity & Regulation
Where you're headed and how
- Calling & Purpose
- Decision-Making & Discernment
- Transitions & Burnout
- Financial & Practical Stress
- Work & Vocation
How you connect and belong
- Marriage & Family
- Dating, Singleness & Relationships
- Boundaries, Conflict & Repair
- Confidence, Courage & Agency
- Communication & Presence
What you carry every day
- Anxiety, Fear & Control
- Discouragement & Comparison
- Pornography & Sexual Integrity
- Shame & Self-Worth
- Fatigue & Overwhelm
Coaches who have walked this road.
Not finished. Not perfect. Real people who've done the same work they're asking you to do — trained in the same methodology, and still living it themselves.
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For the stuck. For the hurting. For anyone ready to move.
Some people come here frustrated — tired of the gap between who they are and who they want to be. Others come here in real pain — in the middle of something hard, desperate for help that actually moves them forward.
Both belong here. What this requires isn't a certain emotional state. It's a willingness to be honest, be coached, and do the work.
- ✓I'm tired of knowing what needs to change and not changing it
- ✓I'm hurting — and I need help that moves me forward, not just a place to process
- ✓I want my relationships to actually be different, not just less bad
- ✓I want my faith to show up in how I actually live, not just what I believe
- ✓I'm willing to be coached, challenged, and held to something better
- A trained coach who listens beneath what you're saying
- Someone who names the pattern clearly and without shame
- Skill training — practiced until the new response is automatic
- Faith-rooted, Scripture-grounded, Holy Spirit-led
- Accountability to the person God made you to become
- Clinical therapy or a diagnostic service
- More content about a life you already know you want
- Motivation that fades by Thursday
- A substitute for clinical care when that's what's needed
- Open-ended processing with no path forward
The same process. Different lives. The same result.
I'd read every book. Went through counseling twice. Nothing changed until someone named the actual belief underneath why I kept shutting down. My wife said she finally felt like she had her husband back.
I knew what I was supposed to be doing with my life. I had no idea what was stopping me. My coach asked one question in the second session that I'm still working through six months later. In a good way.
I came in thinking I just needed accountability. I left understanding why accountability had never worked before. That difference changed everything — at work, at home, in how I show up.
"Be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may discern what is the will of God — what is good and acceptable and perfect."
Romans 12:2What you're probably wondering.
No. This is discipleship coaching. It is not a clinical service, and it does not diagnose or treat clinical conditions. Coaching is active and forward-moving — helping you see what's driving your struggle and learn new ways to respond. If clinical care is what you actually need, we'll tell you honestly and help point you toward the right resource.
Most clients begin to see meaningful movement within 6 to 10 sessions. The four stages take time, especially the Refine stage, which requires repetition for new habits to stick. Some people work with a coach for a defined season; others return when a new challenge surfaces.
Yes. All Share the Struggle coaches operate under strict confidentiality standards. What you share in coaching stays in coaching, with the same standard legally required disclosures that apply in situations involving imminent danger.
If you already know something needs to change, that's usually enough to start. You don't need to have every word for it yet. You don't need to wait until things get worse. If you're ready to face what's really happening and stop living around it, coaching may be the right next step.
Yes. Several coaches on the team work with married couples, not just individuals. When you reach out, you can indicate that you're looking for couples coaching and be connected with coaches who specialize in that work.
Individual coaching packages are built around monthly minutes used in 25- or 50-minute sessions. Current rates: 100 minutes per month for $197, or 200 minutes per month for $349. Couples coaching is $250 and $475 respectively. Group coaching is $24 per session, billed weekly.
Stop waiting. Start walking differently.
Pick the coach who fits where you are. The first conversation is the hardest part — and the most important one.
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